Celebrate Yourself with Self-Compassion

by earthscure

(If you read our email, skip to the example exercises at the bottom).

What is self-compassion and why is it important? Self-compassion is treating oneself with kindness and care. Like we would treat a dear friend. Treating oneself with kindness and care leads to higher self-esteem and reduced stress. It also helps one stay centered during the ups and downs of life.

Today, you can practice this exercise at home. It’s about your self-talk. The exercise is: replace self-critical talk with self-compassion talk. For example, instead of being critical (I’m so disorganized! I can’t believe that I forgot to get milk at the grocery store!), our inner voice is supportive and warm (It’s OK that I forgot the milk. I did remember the other items on my shopping list, and I can make due with what I have… or just go back to the store).

Remember, we treat ourselves with kindness and care. There’s no time for being critical of ourselves. So next time something comes up, try using self-compassion.

And, if you forget to do the exercise. Be kind to yourself. We can make mistakes.

Examples

SELF-CRITICAL

SELF-COMPASSION

I overcooked the Turkey. I’m a horrible cook. Everyone is going to think I’m a bad cook.

It’s ok. We’re here to celebrate “thanks”. I’m thankful for this dinner and my family. If the turkey is a little overcooked, we can use more stuffing or gravy.

It’s too hard to _______. I won’t be able to figure it out.

I’ve overcome other challenges. I can figure it out. And if I don’t, that’s OK too, it takes courage to try.

Other people can do it better. Someone else should do it.

I’m better at some things than other people too. Plus, it’ll be fun to try this.

No one bothers to communicate with me.

I’ll see if I can do something to open up the communication. I’ll put myself out there. If it doesn’t go well, that’s OK too.

It’s too radical a change.

Let’s take a chance.

I’m not going to get any better at this.

It’s great that I am trying. I’ll give it another try.

I failed. I’m so bad at this.

It’s ok. I’m proud of myself for trying. It takes courage to try.

Post your questions and comments below!